isa, though always aware of her submissive nature, had very little knowledge of the lifestyle, except for information that she gained from reading fiction novels, such as the "Story of O." She met a "dominant" online, who claimed to be "all powerful." When visiting this man, on the first visit, he seemed very powerful and safe, according to the information she'd gained through fiction. This man, however, was not a dominant, but an abuser. Though her first visit was safe, her subsequent visits became more and more abusive. Finally with him using implements, such as a 1" wooden dowel, swinging it like a baseball bat, hitting her in unsafe places and beating her beyond her limits, as well as punishing her for the use of her safeword.

he met another dominant online,  SirStevnK, who explained that this lifestyle was not about abuse, but mutual pleasure, and invited her to visit the local scene in Nashville, TN. While there, she met couples involved in mature, consensual, loving relationships. SirStevnK then took her to the PEP house in Atlanta, GA, where she met Mistress Kay and others who enjoyed consensual, loving, exchange of power. When she left her week long excursion into BDSM, she was empowered with the knowledge that perfectly sane, productive members of society, could enjoy the mental and physical aspects of BDSM.

pon arriving home, she decided to form a group, like the one she saw in Atlanta. She started out by putting an ad in a local alternative paper, very discreetly looking for dominants and other submissives. She then turned to "online" again, but this time, she was armed with "real" knowledge.

ithin a few weeks, she had met some very interesting dominants and submissives, who also wanted to form a group. The main focus of the group that she wanted to form would be support, informing, learning and providing a safe environment for people to meet. She was given the advice that she needed to form a "core group" of people, whose sole purpose would be to keep an overly zealous dominant from coming into the group and taking it away from her. That's how the Core Group of the Dungeon Society of Memphis was formed. It was to be a pansexual group, of individuals, who would lend their support to the running of a larger group.

ith the growing pains of a group, came the inevitable "swingers" faction and politics, often associated with large groups of people. They began wanting to hold elections and vote on every little thing until the focus of the group  was lost in the shuffle. Discussion and education became things of the past. The members still interested in the original focus of the group began to emerge and, in no uncertain terms, said "We aren't going to take this anymore."

That's how

was formed.